tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21960968.post3337636340174907047..comments2024-03-15T17:35:03.278+08:00Comments on Malaysia Students: 5 Habits of Successful College Students who Become Successful Adults (#2 will surprise you)Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21960968.post-87375103240394202932014-05-03T21:51:17.702+08:002014-05-03T21:51:17.702+08:00you're welcome!you're welcome!Lu Weehttp://www.luweetang.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21960968.post-10191784513634305132014-05-03T21:16:15.264+08:002014-05-03T21:16:15.264+08:00Awesome advices... thanks for sharing!Awesome advices... thanks for sharing!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21960968.post-46040717321042052992014-04-26T12:53:49.389+08:002014-04-26T12:53:49.389+08:00The point here is not to shy away from asking from...The point here is not to shy away from asking from help, but time it so you get the best.Lu Weehttp://www.luweetang.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21960968.post-74213585993537566352014-04-25T23:27:29.968+08:002014-04-25T23:27:29.968+08:00Hey, it's different from the advice I usually ...Hey, it's different from the advice I usually get, that we shouldn't be shy to ask for help. "If we need help, just ask" I guess we can agree to disagree on this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21960968.post-17874300478188905932014-04-25T12:57:53.510+08:002014-04-25T12:57:53.510+08:00Hi,
It's not as much about our oriental cultu...Hi,<br /><br />It's not as much about our oriental culture as it is about giving people a bad first impression. Put yourself in their shoes. What if somebody you never met before came up to you and asked for something? What if I asked you to help me with something right now?<br /><br />Even if you were somebody who liked helping people you would be put off. We call this interruption. And nobody likes being interrupted this way.<br /><br />The best way to start an interaction is to be genuinely interested in what the person is doing right this very moment. Get to know them and ask them questions that bring up excitement about what's going on in their lives. And then offer help. After you offer the help, make sure you do help them. Keep adding value to their lives.<br /><br />For e.g. if you meet a famous author whose website sucks and you're really good at building websites, the interaction could go:<br /><br />You: Hey, nice to meet you<br />Her: Nice to meet you too!<br />... small talk about origins, family, weather...<br />You: I really like what you've written in your book. I like the part where you talk about the concept of un-education. I think that's what we need right now.<br />Her: Yea... I think so too... [details about book and concept]<br />You: So what's up your sleeves right now?<br />Her: Well.. I'm working on my second book right now. Been very busy gathering ideas... [more details]<br />You: I know how that feels. Actually I'm a web designer. If you're busy and can't find help with your new book launch, I could do it for you. No charges.<br />Her: Wow! Thanks!<br /><br />By adding value to their lives you would be able to a long term relationship with them. They could even become your friend!<br /><br />The bottom line is this: people get swamped with help requests all the time. If you could position yourself as somebody who could help them with an ache, you will start becoming part of their trusted circle.<br /><br />Anyway, it's a great start! You write really clearly. If you're interested to connect just find me on Facebook.Lu Weehttp://www.luweetang.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21960968.post-91997834233797445632014-04-23T00:04:37.710+08:002014-04-23T00:04:37.710+08:00Hi Lu Wee,
I have a question on "never start...Hi Lu Wee,<br /><br />I have a question on "never start a first interaction with an ask for help!" Is it because of our oriental culture that we shouldn't look too desperate for help in front of people? Or was it the concern on not to give people the bad impression that we contact them only because we need help? If our first interaction is not to ask for help then how should we start our first interaction? Sorry for asking so many questions.<br /><br />Thank you for the wonderful advices. By the way, I've been reading your blog through email for more than 2 years but this is my first comment. Cheers~Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com